Reading romance is my escape. My respite from the real world bullshhhhh** where happily ever afters aren’t always promised. On this blog, my goal is keep it cute, spark some conversation, and hope y’all get my sometimes warped sense of humor. I don’t engage in or instigate the drama that sometimes goes on in the book community, particularly the romance community. I’m just here to read the books I enjoy and share my reviews with like-minded folks.
That said, I’m not oblivious or ignorant to what’s going on behind the scenes by any means. I read about it on social media, sometimes chat about it with other bloggers and friends; but 99% of the time, I let that negative ish roll right the hell on. I choose not to be angry every day or let trolls steal the joy I find in reading my favorite genre.
Then there’s that 1% of the time that something occurs that sucks all the fun out of being a romance reader for me.
Like this tweet from author Jill Sorenson.
Boooooyyy, it got me riled. Not because I was surprised or shocked by it. Nope! Micro-aggression, racism and prejudice don’t shock me. This got me all in my feelings because I’ve seen this sentiment expressed too many times of late! A few months ago a “review” from Amazon circulated for His Everlasting Love by Theodora Taylor in which a reader who didn’t even read the book felt the need to “warn” others who may be interested, that the book was featuring “another bwwm killing [her] mood” because she just can’t relate to a Black heroine in a love story.
Then there was the time a while back I read a review while perusing Goodreads (sorry, I forget the book title) where a reader also couldn’t relate thus waxed on and on about how unnatural she thought an interracial pairing of a Black man and White woman was. I ask myself, “what’s unnatural about two human beings falling in love???” The fact that people can’t relate to said experience regardless of differences in race, ethnicity, or culture, yet read romance novels featuring vampires and shape-shifters without any issue boggles my mind, honestly — but that’s another rant for another day.
There are certain plot points, such as rape or violence, that readers might not know about unless they read the book. If you’re soft-hearted like me or just not looking to be taken to that place, these advance warnings are necessary and appreciated — at least by me. Now some readers think they should be warned when characters aren’t White?? Warned. Let’s take a moment to dissect that…
“To inform someone in advance of an impending or possible danger, or other unpleasant situation. To give someone forceful or cautionary advice…” Words mean things, people. Be careful in your choices! I wasn’t aware that a non-White character was something traumatizing, requiring advance cautionary notice before encountering. As a WOC myself, I can’t not take that really personally.
Don’t get me wrong, people have a right to their preferences. OTOH, this micro-aggression against characters who aren’t white, cisgender, heterosexual (or a host of other “standards”), wrapped up in “I just can’t relate“, is getting out of hand. If you don’t want to read something, I’m not mad at you. Do you, boo! But feeling an author should caution all readers (or that you should take it upon yourself to caution other readers) because you don’t like something…
I’m so tired. As a reader, as a blogger, as a person of color, I just want off this ride. I’m not liking what I see up ahead on the horizon.
Anyway, that’s all…I just had to get that off my spirit. Feel free to comment below if you feel so inclined…’til next time.